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the most heartbreaking, emotional, autobiographical book I will ever write

May 26, 2016 Writing  One comment

“If this is the last thing that I was writing, what would I write about?”

This question came up in a podcast I was listening to a few weeks ago.

It got me thinking: 

What is the the one thing I need to get out of me, and put out into the world before I’m gone?

What is the one piece of work that I would choose to represent who I am, who I was, for the rest of time?

It just happened to be a fortunate turn of luck that my current project, Running to Stand Still, is that piece of work.

Knowing the next few books I have on my docket (that’s what I call my agenda—because doesn’t it just sound so much more legit + fancy that way?), I can honestly say that Running to Stand Still

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What marriage has taught me about relationships and love (so far) – Part III

December 13, 2013 LifeThoughts  No comments

Welcome to the last and final installment of this mini-series on marriage and love.

 I want to make it clear that I am not trying to sell you on marriage - just sharing my experience of it, which has been really great. So when I talk about marriage, the principles can also be applied in the context of a committed, long-term, meaningful relationship. I do not look down upon people who choose not to get married. Get married, don't get married - doesn't really matter to me.

Five more principles I have learned from marriage -Be patient, understanding, and excited as your partner grows and evolves.My husband and I have been together since I was 15 - let that sink in for a minute. That means by the time I am 30 I will have been with him for half of my life!

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What marriage has taught me about relationships and love (so far) – Part II

December 6, 2013 LifeThoughts  One comment

My husband and I never considered divorce ... murder sometimes, but never divorce.Joyce Brothers

Continuing from my last post, these next few ideas are much more applicable to relationships in a day to day, real way.

So let's jump right in ....

It is important to give each other space. Granted, I am probably on the far end of the spectrum when it comes to Neediness - but I am here to tell you, that it is OKAY to do your own thing. It's okay to not go to bed at the same time. It's okay if you want to go out on a Saturday night with your friends and leave your S.O. to their own devices. It's okay if your S.O. wants to go out with their friends every once in a while without you there.

It's healthy, nay vital, to have your

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What marriage has taught me about relationships and love (so far)

November 22, 2013 LifeThoughts  One comment


My husband, Andrew, and I have been married for about two and a half years, but we have been together for seven years (since I was fifteen) and have lived together for about five.

I will admit that I have a pretty awesome husband and we have a solid relationship. However, that doesn't mean it doesn't take work and effort. Which leads me to my first point ...

It takes effort.

That's the understatement of the year, isn't it?

No matter how strongly you feel towards your spouse/partner/significant other ('sig oths' as Schmidt would say, thank you Thought Catalog), life has a really great way of getting in the way. Despite what Nicholas Sparks would have you believe, romance can and will get lost in the hectic hustle and

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