Finding beauty in brokenness

April 21, 2016 LifeWriting  No comments

Finding beauty in brokenness…

It’s a theme that runs through my work.

It’s my “brand” slogan.


But I feel the need to clarify…

When I talk about finding beauty in brokenness, it doesn’t mean that I believe things always need to be broken before you can find the good in them.

That everything happens for a reason.

Because I don’t believe that.

Sometimes bad things just happen. For no apparent reason.

Or maybe, that reason is because you’re stupid and make bad decisions.

Hey, we’ve all been there.


What I mean to say, is that, acceptance is not approval.

You don’t have to like a situation to learn from it.

You don’t have to be okay with it.

But you do have to accept that you’re there—in the darkness. In the collapse.

And that, you do have to step up. Take responsibility for yourself, for your actions. How you even got there in the first place.

Because it’s not that you’re in the wreckage that counts. It’s where you decide to go from there that does.

What matters, is how you pick yourself up from the debris. Stand up, dust off the dirt and blood and get back to it.


That being said, sometimes, things do need to happen. Things need to break down and fall apart to be put back together again.  

Because sometimes you can’t see things clearly for what they are until it’s taken apart and distilled into its component pieces.

Sometimes it takes a complete disassembly before things click.


Finding beauty in brokenness is a theme in my work, because at my core, I have to believe that something beautiful and transformative can come out of those dark places of heartbreak and disappointment that we all go through.

Or else, how does any of it make sense?

But just like my characters in my books. Or any book for that matter. Just like I myself have to do on a daily basis…you have to put in the work. You have to do it.

You can’t just sit back and wait for things to happen. Because they never will.

But when you do put in the effort, take a good hard look at yourself in the mirror, start to pick up the pieces and glue them together again, you will be transformed.

Made new. Made better. Stronger. Wiser.

And you will look back and be thankful, that redemption was ever possible in such brokenness.


Until next time, farewell, & may your life never cease to be filled with wonder and curiosity.



photo cred: Bing Wright

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